Fund raisers for the Josh Rojas Foundation:
We will post any fund raisers for our foundation in this section, so please see below for our Annual Dodge for Josh Tournament.


 We just wanted to confirm that, due to the Covid-19 pandemic, we will not be having a 2021 Dodge for Josh Tournament in March.

Since 2012, this family-friendly dodge ball tournament at IHS has enhanced our community and allowed us to continue to emotionally and financially assist bereaved families suffering the loss of a child in the Rochester, NY area. Literally, thousands of people have brought smiles to our faces and inspired us with their sportsmanship, support and unwavering devotion to our cause. We are humbled by each player, spectator and supporter over the years. Thank you so much!!
Though we will not be having an organized fundraiser this year, we have been blessed by the generosity of many amazing people. Whether our foundation has been chosen to be the charitable recipient in memory of a person gone too soon, a personal fundraiser in honor of a birthday or a United Way or Amazon Smile donation, we continue to be humbled by the support of our community. Every single dollar donated to us, goes directly to the support of the bereaved. Thank you so much for your continued devotion to our foundation...even in the midst of a pandemic.
We realize that the past several months have been challenging. Please continue to stay safe and healthy and focus on your own family's well-being. Blessings to you all!
In memory of the beautiful children, gone too soon.
Pat, Kristan, Katrina & BOD







Area Grief Events:
When we were looking for support and guidance, we had no idea where to look for events that could assist us while we traveled on this agonizing journey. When we hear of an event that we think might benefit the grieving community, we will place the information in this section. However, be sure to visit The Compassionate Friends website or the Lifetime Care website for events, as well. Please let us know if you are aware of any events that might benefit our bereaved community. We will gladly add the event to our list. They will also be posted under our Support Advice section.


Upcoming Grief Events/Workshops:


Writing: A Way Through Grief

  People who are looking for active ways to express and manage challenging grief reactions will find this class to be helpful. Topics will include tips on journaling, reprints, suggested books (such as Transcending Loss), and support for personal exploration. No previous writing skills are necessary. This program is limited to 12 participants. For more information and to register for the next session, contact Theo Munson at

(585) 214-1414.


Ceremonies of Remembrance and Thanksgiving

An opportunity to celebrate the memory of loved ones who have died, and acknowledge the enduring strength of their families, friends and caregivers. Music, readings, family tributes and memorial rituals highlight the ceremony. Open for the general public as well as hospice families. No charge. Sponsored by Lifetime Care Hospice. There are two observances each year in November/December. One observance is in Monroe County and one observance is in Wayne/Seneca Counties. We will post this year's dates/locations as soon as they become available to us. However, you may call (585) 214-1574 for further information about Monroe County observances throughout the year and (315) 332-2563 for observances in Wayne/Seneca Counties throughout the year.



Ceremony of Remembrance for our Children (any age) who Have Died Before Us

This spiritual observance is held on a Sunday in December at Church of the Transfiguration, 50 West Bloomfield Road, Pittsford, NY. It is sponsored by the Jeff Milano-Johnson Memorial Fund. Families and friends who have experienced the death of a child, young adult, sibling, or grandchild are welcome. It is a very soothing and peaceful observance that truly touches everyone who attends. *Held in conjunction with The Compassionate Friends Worldwide Candle Lighting© *Open to individuals of any faith. This ceremony is non-denominational.

Send any questions to

Please electronically send a picture of your child for the slideshow by a chosen date in December. Please include the correct spelling of his/her name and the number of people who will be attending.

You can RSVP by a chosen date in December with the child's name and number of people attending.

The ceremony includes a music, harpist, children’s names read, candle lighting, and poetry.
Bring additional photo (framed pictures able to stand work best, no larger than 8 x 10) by 6:15 pm on the night of the Ceremony.

Light refreshments following the event.

If you are not able to RSVP in time, please come anyway.

Limited transportation assistance may be available.

For information call: Elaine Deacon, 585-889-2574 or contact





Due to our community's generosity, we have been able to assist some familes in the Rochester, NY area, with the purchase of a small headstone for their child. If you feel we may be able to help you or someone you know, please print, complete and send in the application below. Read More »

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