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Remembering Karla Fogler and her unconditional love

On December 31, 2011 at approximately 6:30 pm my beloved mother Karla Fogler collapsed in the arms of her beloved husband Neil. My plans for this New Years Eve began with a movie with my beautiful wife Rachel and then a small celebration with our closest and dearest friends, Jeffrey and Michael. Rachel and I decided on the movie The Girl with the Dragon Tattoo. I called my best friend Jeffrey and told him we would see him after our movie. All I told Jeffrey was the name of the movie and the time we were going. At approximate 7pm, I missed a call from my step-father telling me my mother had collapsed and they were on the way to the hospital. I sat through an entire movie as my mother died. I missed that call and several calls from my siblings. After the movie, Rachel and I sat for a few moments because it was a powerful movie that left you in a bit of a daze. Rachel looked at me and said, Lisa I have several missed calls form your sister and a 911 call from Jeffrey. I looked down at my phone and noticed my missed calls. My hands began to shake and I knew this was not going to be good news. I was unsure what had happened and to who but I just knew. My wife looked at me and said, Lisa call your sister! I looked back at her and said, Rachel give me one moment, I have to prepare myself for what I am about to hear. She said okay. We got up and began to walk out. I called my voice mail and got the message from my step-father and my body went cold. I attempted to dial my sister but my fingers would not work. As we walked out through the crowd I looked up and saw Jeffrey standing at the exit. I saw the look in his eyes and I knew. He told me my mother had passed. I collapsed right there in my tracks. My life has not been the same since that moment. I miss my dear mother everyday and continue to learn what a beautiful person she was. You think you know your parents but there are so many things that will come to light after they pass. I lost my father when I was 10. My mother was my rock. She was the core of our family. I love my mother dearly and miss her more every day. In the past year Pat Roas has become a dear friend of mine. I did not know Pat or Kristan when Josh passed. I was able to lean on Pat and Kristan during the days that followed my mothers passing. For that I am thankful. I know God sends us down different paths in our lives for a reason. Pat and Kristan have been sent down this path to help others who will walk the same. 54 days after my mother passed my best friend Jeffrey lost his father Patrick. God does things and we sometimes do not understand why until later and sometimes never. I know this will be a continuing journey of grief, love, understanding and growing. I am thankful to my wife Rachel who has been with me every step of the way. It has not been easy for her and she has been by my side as I have experienced things I never expected. I am thankful for Pat and Kristan and I am thankful God allowed me to help my best friend through his loss. Death is dark and the one thing that brings faith to the forefront. May God bless every person who has suffered such great loss and please continue to lean on the support of your friends and family. I look forward to the day I can embrace my mother again!

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